Last year, my maternal grandmother was diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), also known as Lou Gehrig's Disease. This neurological syndrome begins usually in a specific muscle area then spreads slowly throughout the body, weakening the muscles and eventually leading to death. There is no cure. In my grandma, the disease started in her mouth and throat, slowly chipping away at her speaking, eating, and swallowing abilities. Now, about a year and a half later, she eats and drinks through a feeding tube in her stomach, can barely speak at all, and is losing movement in her limbs. This requires constant care by my grandpa, my parents, and a slew of doctors and caregivers.
Shakespeare's main character in King Lear, the King himself, incrementally loses control over his kingdom, his daughters, and his own mind and sanity. From the first scene when he divides his kingdom between his two daughters to later scenes in which his guards are captured, banished, and debated over, Lear goes from a powerful medieval king to a victim of his own power distribution. Lear's daughters, Goneril and Regan, along with their husbands, take responsibility for his care, the results of which constantly displease the King. As demands are made and rejected, the relationship between father and daughters becomes increasingly tense.
This weekend, my aunt flew in from Alabama to meet with my mom, uncle, grandpa, and great-aunt over what to do with Grandma in the coming months. One of the first things to come up was the caregivers that my grandma requests, fires, likes, and dislikes. She has gone through quite a few so far, probably due to the unreasonable height of her standards. They also discussed the possibility of nursing homes, and other long-term solutions such as that. Similarly, one of the biggest conflicts between Lear and his daughters is whether he can keep his guards that he's had for years - they constantly disturb Goneril and Regan in their daily lives. The daughters, like my family, only want the best for their parent, yet they have to make some tough decisions.
This connection between my grandma and King Lear allows me to understand both the past, present, and future in my grandmother's story. Even more so, it allows me to understand more clearly the complex relationships in King Lear, a story that can sometimes be difficult to follow and appreciate. Most importantly, I now can more easily relate to the characters in the story, seeing their faults as products of the circumstance rather than bad character. Before making this connection, I thought of King Lear as spiteful and his daughters as power-hungry. And though there may be a little bit of that too, I see that they are caught up in a very complicated situation that requires compromises and often arguments.